My two daughters have children that have lovingly called them “Mami” (Spanish for “mommy”, because they are a Peruvian/American family), and “Mama” respectively.
I cherish the fact that these kiddos have different names for their moms because my precious daughters are unmistakably different from each other in beautiful ways. (It also helps to distinguish who’s calling whom when all eight cousins are together!) As unique as they are, my girls are excellent moms as they journey day in and day out with their remarkable children. (Can you tell I’m an ultra proud grandma?)
We are in the month of May and here it is Mother’s Day already! I find myself bragging to others about my girls and I thank our Lord every single day for them! Today, however, I choose to brag as I blog!
Not that they would expect me to share this comparison, but I want to portray their role as moms in light of the most exemplar mom that ever lived: Mary the mother of Jesus. I must say, without even trying to emulate her, my girls follow Jesus and are attentive to His voice, as was she.
Mary was holy and pure long before she was a mom. I’m not about to put my daughters equal to Mary by any means, but as I studied more of Mary’s life as a mom, I could see some similarities. I saw them, with sincerity and commitment, seek holiness in Christ Jesus long before they were moms too. Both were baptized as infants and at a very early age they each understood how much God loved and cared for them. They accepted Jesus and His great love at the age of three, respectively, and tried to live for Him with their sweet, tender hearts! Each one had their own unique experience of “devotional time” with Jesus during their childhood. They read their Bibles and journaled regularly as they sought to please Him.
Fast forward a few years. Mary was a young teen when the Angel Gabriel appeared to her and told her that she was to be the mother of Jesus, the Savior of the world! Can you imagine being her in that moment? Her “fiat”* was a humble surrender of trust as she said “Yes!” to God, having no idea what that was to mean in her life. My girls were in junior high when they said “Yes” to complete surrender to Jesus. They began walking toward holiness in their lives while growing in their understanding of and obedience to Him. I saw them make profound decisions with Jesus in mind.
The more I study the Gospels of Luke and John and Mary’s role in Christ’s life the more I see what a remarkable role model she was. In Luke 1:45-49, Mary rejoiced in the goodness of the Lord for the “great things He had done” in her life. I have witnessed beautiful moments in my daughters’ lives of rejoicing in God’s favor as well. I’ve seen them proclaim His goodness when they are taken aback by the many blessings and fulfilled promises He has bestowed on them.
At the time of Christ Jesus’ birth, when the shepherds explained how an angel appeared to them, Mary pondered it all and held it deep within her heart. I’ve seen my daughters ponder deeply the things of the Lord, especially when life was stressful and confusing. I’m so humbled by the beautiful reactions they have had as they continually seek God’s peace and serenity.
One awesome characteristic I see in them is that of asking open-ended questions of their kids, especially amidst a crisis of some sort. When I look at my life as a young mom, I don’t recall ever asking those kinds of questions of my kids (thankfully all three of them turned out super well!). This makes me beam all the more, because if I were to do it all over again, I’d be asking THEM for advice! I’ve watched in awe as they both patiently take the time, day after day and week after week to ask questions that require an honest answer. This has nurtured their kids to respond well and make their own choices in their short lives. When I shared my regret that I didn’t ask them questions I was both relieved and curious when one daughter responded with: “You did your best, mom!”
We know, from God’s Word, that Mary asked at least one question of Jesus. I’m pretty certain she asked Him many questions, but those stories of their family life would’ve made the Bible too large and heavy to carry! “Son, why have you done this to us? Your father and I have been looking for you with great anxiety.” (Luke 2:48b). After His response, once again, she pondered deeply in her heart what had just unfolded. What an example of humbly waiting on God! And that is what I see in my girls as they raise their families.
When Jesus was crucified, his mom was right there at the foot of the cross. My daughters are the kind of mom that, no matter what, they surround their kids with unconditional loving care beyond words! I’ve seen them both, with endless love, express deep concern and prayer when their little ones have been very ill. They are always “right there” attending to their needs, cries, angst and pain. Little has been written about Mary in the Bible, but I’m sure she was a woman others wanted to emulate and my girls have actually done that without even knowing it!
“Mami” and “Mama” were prayed for long before they were even born. And what I prayed for has been realized in their lives and so much more! They each are the best wife for their husbands and amazing role models for other women out there! They are teachers, prayer warriors, preachers, chefs, bakers, doctors, entertainers, evangelists, managers, disciplers, friends and mentors in so many ways! They trust Jesus and say “Yes” to Him even when they don’t understand. My girls have and will continue to prayerfully ponder, much more than I’ll ever know, the deep things of God with respect to their children… and what joy that brings to this mother’s heart!
Happy Mother’s Day girls! I love you so much!
*Latin for “Let it be done” referring to Mary’s response in Luke 1: 38